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A Mother is born… :)

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This is a special post. One that is long delayed too, but today, I am glad I did delay it. For it found a perfect timing. 🙂

IHM, a long while ago, had tagged me on the first born detailing post.. 🙂 I had been wanting to get to it for, like, ages.. but only today did the urge seize me and force me to the computer, to make me manage time, so that something special is there, to share, this day. Why this day, you ask? You shall find out somewhere down the read, hopefully 🙂 🙂

They say a mother is born with the first child she has, and so it is both a learning experience and a re discovery of another you, when you have a baby… and to be gender safe, let me say the same goes for the father too.. 🙂

1. WAS YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY PLANNED?

Nopes… 🙂 🙂 It was rather a surprise 🙂

2. WERE YOU MARRIED AT THE TIME?

:D.. YES!

3. WHAT WERE YOUR REACTIONS?

Surprise, and then a wonderful anticipation:)

4. WAS ABORTION AN OPTION FOR YOU?

No. NOT.

5. HOW OLD WERE YOU?

Just over twenty 🙂

6. HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT?

The usual delay :D! Then the knowing… 🙂 And finally a lab test. 🙂

7. WHO DID YOU TELL FIRST?

My husband

8. DUE DATE?

April, and we were hoping for a Vishu Kaineettam 🙂 (That is a sort of gift you get at Vishu, usually in the form of coins, money, given with blessings to start the new year :))

9. DID YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS?

Plenty… till the end… till he was born 🙂

10. WHAT DID YOU CRAVE?

Surprisingly… nothing :)!

11. WHO/WHAT IRRITATED YOU THE MOST?

Me and myself, I think, more than anything else 🙂

12. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CHILD’S SEX?

A boy 🙂

13. DID YOU WISH YOU HAD THE OPPOSITE SEX OF WHAT YOU WERE GETTING?

🙂 I would not be entirely honest if I said I did not 🙂

14. HOW MANY POUNDS DID YOU GAIN THROUGHOUT THE PREGNANCY?

I didn’t, I lost weight 🙂

15. DID YOU HAVE A BABY SHOWER?

No.

16. WAS IT A SURPRISE OR DID YOU KNOW?

Not applicable… 🙂

17. DID YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS DURING YOUR PREGNANCY?

Apart from not gaining weight, and not being able to keep much food down, nothing 🙂

18. WHERE DID YOU GIVE BIRTH?

Was with my parents, in Bangalore 🙂

19. HOW MANY HOURS WERE YOU IN LABOR?

About 24 hours… mild at first but from about night, till the next noon, I was in labour!

20. WHO DROVE YOU TO THE HOSPITAL/BIRTH CENTER?

My parents.

21. WHO WATCHED YOU GIVE BIRTH?

My gynaec. and her team, and a close family friend who is a child specialist at the same place.

22. WAS IT NATURAL OR C-SECTION?

Natural, but outlet forceps.

23. DID YOU TAKE MEDICINE TO EASE THE PAIN?

I am not sure that it was in, in those days. I did not even know about it 🙂

24. HOW MUCH DID YOUR CHILD WEIGH?

He was a big ‘un! 3.8 Kg. 🙂

25. WHEN WAS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY BORN ?

1.40 in the afternoon.

26. WHAT WAS YOUR REACTION WHEN THE DOCTOR THE SEX OF THE BABY?

I kind of knew… 🙂 So it was not much of a surprise. But there was a whole lot of relief too, because it was over, and the whole process was natural, and I did not have to take a C section.

27. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST REACTION ON SEEING THE BABY?

Can’t explain, really. It was a moment I had always known about. A deja vu, if you would. In fact years ago, much before I got married, or even had the inkling about it, I had written about him, here 🙂 Don’t ask me how, but that is how he turned out too, as a young one, and still is one 🙂

28. DID YOU CRY?

Yes.. 🙂

29. WHAT DID YOU NAME HIM/HER?

Kunju 🙂

30. HOW OLD IS YOUR FIRST BORN TODAY?

It’s his birthday today… and that is why I am writing in this post.. to make it all the more special 🙂 So I cant say the exact age because, you see, it’s bad luck. Lol. :D! But he’s in his mid twenties..:)And finally after an age, more than 6 years we are spending it together 🙂

🙂 Happy Birthday, all over again, Kunju 🙂

Now I must share this too… and that is a reference to the second born 🙂 He is definitely going to find this post, and he is going to say, see I told you na, I’m second best (especially when he was supposed to be a girl, according to my prediction, and he turned out a boy :D! Lol!), so you aren’t writing anything about me. For those who are second born and know how it is, I must tell you, I have this too, for him, here.. 🙂 If you have the time 🙂

12 April, 2009

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Author: Usha Pisharody

A rambler, pretends to be a teacher, loves to dream, and go on Quixotic Quests in the Realm of Romance With Life...

46 thoughts on “A Mother is born… :)

  1. so simple, so sensitive… nicely done… !! loved reading it ushus !

    Dhirubhai, thank you so very very much 🙂 Loved your comment on the poem too. Thanks so much!

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  2. Ah I loved the poems you gave links to 😀 😀

    Since am not a”mother” yet.. I cannot really relate to this.. but the love simply is so enticing 🙂

    Meena 🙂 Thanks for the lovely words on the poems too, and the words shared for this one! Surely you are going to be one lovely mom too! God Bless 🙂

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  3. The first child is a special one
    more so if it happens to be a son
    it is like a first medal you won
    I know for sure coz i am also one
    and so is my son.

    Convey best wishes to Kunjumon. May he have all that he wishes for and more.:))) And Happy Vishu too to your family.

    Thank you Govind! Yes indeed the first born is special, but may I be so bold as to add, that it is just as special if it were a girl too 🙂 Infact I wished so that it would be a girl… second time round too.. 🙂 But… 🙂 🙂 Thanks 🙂 for the lovely way it has been conveyed!

    And yes, Happy Vishu to you and yours too!

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    • Yeah you are right,so I will make the following changes.

      The first child is a special one
      whether it is a daughter or a son
      it is like a first medal you won
      I know for sure coz i am also one.

      I would be lying if I said I was not a tad bit disappointed when the second also was a boy.

      pinnae Kani kando?

      Now that is more or less perfect, Govind! Thank you for so generously modifying it 🙂 🙂
      And, I was more than a tad disappointed… 🙂 But then, it was only momentary; and I have found ever so many daughters along the way 🙂 And it makes up for it 🙂 Thank you Govind, ever so much. Kani Kandu 🙂 Raavile 4manikku 🙂 Vishu kaineetam kitti, and koduthu, kuttikalkku 🙂 And that felt so good 🙂

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  4. Hey, that was just so sweet, Usha!

    Now I shouldn’t call you by coz I am about your son’s age or possibly a year or two older, but then what do I call you? I really hope you wouldn’t mind!

    Please do convey my bestest wishes to Kunju. Wish him loads of love and laughter, and many many many birthdays to celebrate with his loving Mom!

    Thanks, Surbhi 🙂 And dont worry about what ever you call me 🙂 What’s in a name after all? And age… well, I really don’t know what it is ..:D Lol!

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  5. Happy Birthday from my side too 🙂

    Thanks Rini, will pass it on 🙂

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  6. How lovely,Ushus!What an apt title! A very happy birthday to your son and to you as a mother as this was the day the mother in you was born:)

    A very Happy Vishu to you again:)

    Thanks and thanks again, Deeps 🙂 Will tell tell my kunju too 🙂 !Happy Vishu to you too!

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  7. 🙂 Happy Birthday

    Thanks, chirag 🙂

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  8. ((((hugs))for only you could have written it like this…
    yes, like Winnie says I too am not a mother yet and yet the love here shines through 🙂

    I would not be entirely honest if I said I did not
    How well I know this Ushus 🙂 and how beautifully you have shared it time and time again…the yearning …..coz I know you will be one rocking ma in law! 😀
    muahh!

    you lost weight? 😦
    ((((hugs))one of the rare times I have heard that 🙂

    Lol, Indy, nothing is hidden from you is it? You zeroed in on that line that I tried to clothe diplomatically :D! Thanks!! So very much! So very very much!

    Would you please give me a reference for the ma in law part? I might need it with the younger one, lol! You know why 🙂 🙂 Lovely to hear from you, and with such a surfiet of pleasure in sharing this too!

    you had written about him and so beautifully too! its amazing how the fondest wishes of the heart come true isnt it?
    but you know that:)))

    (((hugs)))

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  9. oh ! and Belated Happy Birthday!God bless him Ushus for he’s yours as they both are …and therefore now through you , special to me too 🙂

    Is this mom’s heart singing still of the celebrations? 😀

    Awww… 🙂 and yes, it is still is… 🙂 🙂 Thank you!!

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  10. Hmm.. Happy B’day, that was pretty sweet.. its pretty difficult to relate myself to it as i am stil single.. bt its nice to hear abt it…

    @Devil Incarnate, (Sreelakshmi?? forgive me if it is not :)) Thank you for the kind words, and yes, I think one needs to go through a bit of it to be able to relate to it 🙂 Thanks for dropping too!

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  11. That is so so sweet, Ushus. Happy Birthday, Kunju!

    Vishuaashamsakal to entire Ushus family 🙂

    Misshhhh youuuuu!

    Solilo, thanks so very much! Hope your Vishu was great too.. it must be just ending now, out there isn’t it? Aashamsagal 🙂
    And I shall pass on this wish to Kunju too 🙂 🙂 Thankssss!

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  12. *smiles* this is absolutely wonderful!!! 🙂 am all smiles reading this.. all about kunju!! hehehe!! 😀

    i wish i cud do this tag ryt away…hehe… but technically, me aint “there” yet..lol 😛

    n yea..losin weight wuz kinda surprising!! 🙂

    God bless!!! 🙂 N loadsa love!! n yea, me loved one thing more in diz : He was a big ‘un! hehehehehe!!! 😛

    n wordpress looks lovely indeed!! esp de comments area!! 🙂

    Lol.. I have you also to thank for sharing this 🙂 Thanks a ton for that 🙂 🙂 *beaming*

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  13. Now why wasnt i told abt this!!!! Well i got thru to this thru m highly placed souces( U no who tht is rite) Anyways quite a rvelation this is, and u had better come up with a better one fr the second one, otherwise u defnite wih be running for cover. Three cheers to this and many more to come (NO PUN INTENDED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

    Arjun 🙂 Lol@highly placed sources, I just thanked her for it 🙂 I never did get around to telling you because I have hardly seen you right ?? :D!! Don’t worry the second one is just about to discover it, and then I am cooked.. 🙂 Shall holler for rescue then.. :P!
    Thanks, and I know I need not say it, but, then.. 🙂 Love you too!

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  14. First of all my Birthday to Kunjumon 🙂 I have read this page and then left it open a hundred times to leave a comment and then something came up and I had to go…will be back soon.

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  15. Back again 🙂

    This is my favorite tag Usha Pisharody 🙂 Loved reading your answers, and you are right the second child is sure to demand why he is missing here! I am so glad you wrote a post on him too 🙂
    I too have been planning to that before he decides to check my blog 😉

    You lost weight throughout your pregnancy? I did in the first trimester… nausea is the worst physical discomfort I have ever experienced…
    😦
    And he is an Aries baby 🙂

    Glad that the open page finally got attention.. 🙂 Lol. And yes, it really is a favourite with me, esp. since the first born got here too.. 🙂 So it has become even more precious 🙂 Yes, he is Aries, a Sun Child 🙂 That is why I said, I knew.. just knew 🙂 🙂

    However though there is a post for the second born, I think something similar willhave to be attempted to really soothe him.. 🙂 And I shall take his help for it 🙂 🙂

    Thanks for asking me to do it, and for being here to share in the joy I felt in sharing it!

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  16. What a nice birthday gift to your son. Motherhood is indeed such a blessing. -http://writerzblock.wordpress.com/

    🙂 Yes, Pallavi , it is! Thank you for being here!

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  17. That was very touching and warm, like you1 Loved both and the second ones …most!

    Sindhu, thank you so much!! 🙂

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  18. And what a kanni for you, right!

    🙂 🙂 Indeed!

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  19. (Slightly belated) greetings on your son’s birth anniversary, ma’am… 🙂

    Trust you are enjoying your break! Tc.

    Peace.


    Eagerly waiting for u to update *Quest* 🙂

    Quest kind of updated, 🙂 and this one, well it guess it will still take a bit of time. Thanks for the wishes 🙂 And for dropping in 🙂
    🙂

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  20. Mom always said she wanted a girl -> and apparently I was dressed in gowns until I started violently protesting around the age of two. But I think that, by now, she’s settled into the idea of having a (uber cool) boy instead 🙂

    This had revealing insights into something I don’t usually hear talk about! Thanks Usha – nice post 🙂

    Aareet, I know exactly how your mother must have felt 🙂 🙂 And you too 🙂 🙂 Thank you too, Aareet 🙂

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  21. Hi Usha – Long time…hope all is well with you. Have you moved to WP? Let me know so I can amend the link to your blog accordingly!

    Hugs
    C
    Corinne, yes the prose blog has shifted to wp. And well, ever since, I have time for little to do here, and on the net… like reading up blog posts and the like. Saw the new post titles on my dashboard, and that Pablo has come to stay. Wonderful! Hope you are having a great time with him 🙂 And thank you for dropping in here too!

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  22. Belated birthday wishes to your son, Usha. Straight-from-the-heart post.

    Thanks Mystic Margarita 🙂

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  23. This tag makes a great gift to your son…and at the same time u managed to make your second son happy too 😀
    great!!! hehe

    Motherhood consists on managing to keep the balance, esp with two boys.. :P! And when you are a mother born over and over again with the next ones, it makes you utterly at home with spending your time keeping peace around the place… 😀 :D!! Thanks Praveen!

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  24. Hey! This is the first time I am visiting your blog and I liked reading this post. You’ve kept it simple yet warm/cherished.

    P.S. Happy Belated Birthday to your son.

    Thank you Badz… 🙂 For visiting and the wishes. Shall be over to yours as soon as I find myself 🙂 :)! Thank you again!

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    • LoL! Don’t have a blog yet. Will let you know when I do. 🙂

      Lol :D! Just discovered it too! That you dont! Please do drop the link in, after 4th of June, is it? 🙂 All the best for the exams 🙂 I hear you are in contention for the prize of comment monster too :P! Good going! Love the way your comments make one think, introspect and ruminate 🙂

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      • First of all Thank You for the wishes. I will certainly need then to get by this semister. 😕 Secondly, I don’t feel I’m in contention for the prize of comment monster. I believe Indyeah deserves it and should ALWAYS stay as the queen of comments/comment monster. 🙂

        And yes, I guess, I do make one think, introspect and ruminate through my comments. BUT I do it myself before leaving comment for someone. 😉 🙂

        ush: Badz… by all means, let Indygurl retain the queen title 🙂 She is basically the one who got me too, to leave these darned long comments, and her gracious and generous attention to each one is something special.
        Well, it is very clear too, that, as with Indyeah, you certainly are very passionate about what you share through your comments, and that can come only with all those said actions 🙂 thinking, ruminating, and introspecting 🙂 Good. Am glad that there is another person I can look up to, for those things! For, being that way, does indeed inspire others to do the same 🙂 Thank you 🙂

        And I have just learnt you are a teach. Is that true?? What do you teach and to what age group do you teach??

        ush: A teacher, who hesitates to call herself that, because I find myself more of a learner, most times :P! I teach at school level, upto 10th, English 🙂 That would mean children upto about 15 years.

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        • Sorry I mean teacher.

          🙂 Gotttitt!

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        • I just like to say. I thought you were an English teacher. You write so well and you have such a wide range of vocabulary. 😀

          Although, I must say I use to hate English at school because I always ended up with bad or really strick English teachers. BUT it’s funny now, I use to hate reading and analysing, plus poetry (still am bad at it. 😦 ). And NOW (last 3/4 years) I love it. I read now (when not studying or on vacations) until my eye lids drop and I am falling asleep. At which point I have to force myself to put the book down. 😦 😉

          Stranger things happen I guess… 🙂 I am , however glad that you did discover a love of the language, gradually, even though the teachers did seem to put you off 🙂

          Thank you for the kind words too!

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      • the link to my blog is

        My link is http://dreamybadz.wordpress.com/

        or you could just click on my name.

        Thank you Badz, am there, already 🙂

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  25. Miss you, Ushus. {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

    me: 🙂 miss you too, and myself … 🙂

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  26. A belated Happy Birthday Kunju. A very beautiful and apt post.

    Thanks JP 🙂 It was great being with him 🙂

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  27. LOL when i started reading your post, i thought u just have gone through all those ..and i wa realy shocked to hear that he is in his mid twenties!! :)Lovely post, could walk thru it.. BlatedHappy Birthday to your Kunju 🙂

    Lol! WEll somethings, Verbivorehere [interesting name, and very apt for a voracious reader, writer :)], seem like they happened yesterday, and being born as a mother/father is one of them, i assure you 🙂 Thank you for your kind wishes!

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  28. Happy Belated B’day to kunju….

    and I love this tag, had a lot of fun doing it too!

    Thank you Imp’s MOm, and I love the way you went about it too!

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  29. Usha…I read the links too…..and I had tears….Yes, having a child is momentous, Suddenly its not about urself anymore…And then suddenly we as mothers start counting our blessings for everything that we took for granted, and never stop Thanking God.I have done a post on My children..old posts, please dig in and make time to read.
    The poems are heart tugging, especially the one where u talk about your back..I lived thru, the same, and My son was the one cradling me around in his strong arms…Our kids..our joy…Right?

    You read that one about the second one so well… and I know how much you too must have felt it 🙂 Thank you for that wonderful empathy! Our kids, definitely always, and ever, our joy, Poonam! I know! will be over to read and dig in to the posts, once i get my breath back 🙂 Thank you for the invitation:)

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  30. Where are you,Usha??Trust all well at your end?R u still in the holiday mode??Be back soon.we all are waiting for you:)

    Deeps I am dying to get back but circumstances seem ot have conspired to keep me away 🙂 😦 :D!
    Hope fully a few more days, that is all 🙂 Thanks for peeking in to enquire.

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  31. 🙂 Thank you everyone for being here. Am still bogged down with a bit of pending work, and pending visits, 🙂 :). It’s still vacation time here 🙂

    Shall be back with the replies, and hopefully a new post, soon.

    Till then, thanks again for your patience, and for your interest in this space :). Take care and God Bless!

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  32. Ushus, How was Thirssur Pooram? Do make a post on it with pictures. I have only heard about it. Never seen.

    Now enough break. Come back 🙂

    Solilo, Pooram was wonderful. Had the elder one also here, as he is now posted close, at Kochi, and he came with a few friends. My camera conked out, so no pictures, but yes, by Tuesday, I ought to have some sort of post ready with that of the Pooram. A tad late, but then better later than never 🙂

    Thanks for the idea too 🙂 And yes, will be back, for sure, 🙂

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  33. missing ur posts 😦 happy holidays…. come back soon….

    🙂 I am waiting too, to come back 🙂

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