A Quest on Overdrive … :)

An eccentric rambler on life's lessons and mercies, found and lost… :)


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Blessed!

*This one is for the SB… 🙂 who makes me realize each day, how much more I have to learn, appreciate, and love 🙂 Thanks a zillion, sweetheart 🙂

Now that I am officially twenty-five years old, the X-files option to disclose is finally here!

By the way, why does to reveal have a word like “disclose”, to express it? Strange are the ways of the English Language! This will further get me into rambling about the vagaries of a favourite language of mine, so I had better stop before I start! 😛

Ah! You’re still here, and reading? Maybe you’re wondering what on earth I am going to disclose… 😉 Just a status message on Facebook, by the SB wishing his brother a Happy Birthday, that goes like this 🙂

Happy b’day Arjun Muralidharan on ur 25th 🙂 It was nice growing up with someone like you, – someone to lean on, someone to count on… someone to tell on! 🙂 😛 😀 Hav a great yeah ahead!!

And his response?

Thanks bro.. wat do i say.. cudn hav done it without you. All those years, those games, those rides.. seems like it was yesterday and i sure do wish like hell it will remain like that forever. Though i shud say, i hate it wen u keep growing up.. i always wish ud remain “chotu” Love u loads.. BRO

I am reminded of the song, from Ram Lakhan, “Mere Do Anmol Ratan”, that I love so much.

That’s them… 🙂

And what I feel most blessed is that the SB has found words, to express so beautifully his feelings! Prouder yet again, am I, of him :), for he has borne the brunt of many a dark day I have gone through, being there for me, always, but always… 🙂 And though we fight the hardest, 😛 :P, I know he will be the one who will pull me through the fires I burn in 🙂 🙂

Ash 🙂 You’re the coolest, most happening person, ever 🙂 Thank you, for you 🙂

And though I don’t need to say it… Love you… 🙂

13 April, 2010

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I am twenty-five… :D!

What a liar! How can she go public with such a blatant untruth?!

Pssst… well, when you think of it, do you think…? Naah! How the heck?

Lol! The moment those familiar with this space read this blog post title, these must have been the thoughts that flitted through their minds? I’m just double-guessing, but I guess I probably would too… :D!

Well truth be told, this is true, you know. Maa kasam! (Pun intended :P- you’ll figure out the pun soon enough! 😆 ) I wrote about the first of the twenty-five birthdays on this very space, about a year ago. In fact that post still holds the record of the highest number of hits for a post, ever, on Overdrive :). I loved writing it, and also, this one, on A Quest, the other blog I am at 🙂

By now, hopefully, the truth of the title will have been accepted without doubt! I wanted to share this here, and today, because the FB has gone public on Facebook about this very event! (FB as in First Born, please note 🙂 )

The Sun Child write is very special one, for it worked magic 🙂 It was written years before the FB was born, and at that time, even the thought of marriage was far from my mind :P! The magic is that he turned out exactly the way I describe My Sun Child… not at all fussy, gregarious, pet lover, still dreamy… 🙂 Each time I read it, I am amazed at the way things turned out! He is an Arien, a Sun Child too!

He celebrated the occasion with his friends on Marine Drive, cake cutting and smashin and sploshing on his face… why they do this is beyond me, still! :o!

We, ie the SB and I celebrated too. We baked chocolate cakes and made it into a Black Forest (or so I like to call it… 😛 )… complete with whipped cream and cherries.. though we forgot the chocolate shavings… 🙂 Here’s how it happened:

Two chocolate cakes baked in a pressure cooker 🙂

Layered over each other, and slathered with whipped cream, on an overturned steel plate 🙂

Piping around the edges with Mehendi cone like apparatus made out of plastic covers, for lack of the real things :P!

More decorations… and finally…..


HAPPY BIRTHDAY ARJUN!!!!

Now you will perhaps agree the blog post is not lying 🙂 🙂

12 April, 2010


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A Mother is born… :)

This is a special post. One that is long delayed too, but today, I am glad I did delay it. For it found a perfect timing. 🙂

IHM, a long while ago, had tagged me on the first born detailing post.. 🙂 I had been wanting to get to it for, like, ages.. but only today did the urge seize me and force me to the computer, to make me manage time, so that something special is there, to share, this day. Why this day, you ask? You shall find out somewhere down the read, hopefully 🙂 🙂

They say a mother is born with the first child she has, and so it is both a learning experience and a re discovery of another you, when you have a baby… and to be gender safe, let me say the same goes for the father too.. 🙂

1. WAS YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY PLANNED?

Nopes… 🙂 🙂 It was rather a surprise 🙂

2. WERE YOU MARRIED AT THE TIME?

:D.. YES!

3. WHAT WERE YOUR REACTIONS?

Surprise, and then a wonderful anticipation:)

4. WAS ABORTION AN OPTION FOR YOU?

No. NOT.

5. HOW OLD WERE YOU?

Just over twenty 🙂

6. HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT?

The usual delay :D! Then the knowing… 🙂 And finally a lab test. 🙂

7. WHO DID YOU TELL FIRST?

My husband

8. DUE DATE?

April, and we were hoping for a Vishu Kaineettam 🙂 (That is a sort of gift you get at Vishu, usually in the form of coins, money, given with blessings to start the new year :))

9. DID YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS?

Plenty… till the end… till he was born 🙂

10. WHAT DID YOU CRAVE?

Surprisingly… nothing :)!

11. WHO/WHAT IRRITATED YOU THE MOST?

Me and myself, I think, more than anything else 🙂

12. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CHILD’S SEX?

A boy 🙂

13. DID YOU WISH YOU HAD THE OPPOSITE SEX OF WHAT YOU WERE GETTING?

🙂 I would not be entirely honest if I said I did not 🙂

14. HOW MANY POUNDS DID YOU GAIN THROUGHOUT THE PREGNANCY?

I didn’t, I lost weight 🙂

15. DID YOU HAVE A BABY SHOWER?

No.

16. WAS IT A SURPRISE OR DID YOU KNOW?

Not applicable… 🙂

17. DID YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS DURING YOUR PREGNANCY?

Apart from not gaining weight, and not being able to keep much food down, nothing 🙂

18. WHERE DID YOU GIVE BIRTH?

Was with my parents, in Bangalore 🙂

19. HOW MANY HOURS WERE YOU IN LABOR?

About 24 hours… mild at first but from about night, till the next noon, I was in labour!

20. WHO DROVE YOU TO THE HOSPITAL/BIRTH CENTER?

My parents.

21. WHO WATCHED YOU GIVE BIRTH?

My gynaec. and her team, and a close family friend who is a child specialist at the same place.

22. WAS IT NATURAL OR C-SECTION?

Natural, but outlet forceps.

23. DID YOU TAKE MEDICINE TO EASE THE PAIN?

I am not sure that it was in, in those days. I did not even know about it 🙂

24. HOW MUCH DID YOUR CHILD WEIGH?

He was a big ‘un! 3.8 Kg. 🙂

25. WHEN WAS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY BORN ?

1.40 in the afternoon.

26. WHAT WAS YOUR REACTION WHEN THE DOCTOR THE SEX OF THE BABY?

I kind of knew… 🙂 So it was not much of a surprise. But there was a whole lot of relief too, because it was over, and the whole process was natural, and I did not have to take a C section.

27. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST REACTION ON SEEING THE BABY?

Can’t explain, really. It was a moment I had always known about. A deja vu, if you would. In fact years ago, much before I got married, or even had the inkling about it, I had written about him, here 🙂 Don’t ask me how, but that is how he turned out too, as a young one, and still is one 🙂

28. DID YOU CRY?

Yes.. 🙂

29. WHAT DID YOU NAME HIM/HER?

Kunju 🙂

30. HOW OLD IS YOUR FIRST BORN TODAY?

It’s his birthday today… and that is why I am writing in this post.. to make it all the more special 🙂 So I cant say the exact age because, you see, it’s bad luck. Lol. :D! But he’s in his mid twenties..:)And finally after an age, more than 6 years we are spending it together 🙂

🙂 Happy Birthday, all over again, Kunju 🙂

Now I must share this too… and that is a reference to the second born 🙂 He is definitely going to find this post, and he is going to say, see I told you na, I’m second best (especially when he was supposed to be a girl, according to my prediction, and he turned out a boy :D! Lol!), so you aren’t writing anything about me. For those who are second born and know how it is, I must tell you, I have this too, for him, here.. 🙂 If you have the time 🙂

12 April, 2009


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Dearest Daughter…

Today I am at a loss for words.

You know how much I would go on and on to you, about not ever letting yourself feel any less, no matter what anyone says, than boys. To Be a Girl, and yet be Equal. I would talk endlessly on how not to take flak from them.

I loved dressing you up. Remember, how I would go ga ga over clothes, for there is so muchmore by way of choice for girls, than boys. And I would watch you with such pride.

I was also terrified all the while. Never let anyone, especially strangers or acquaintances pick you up, hug you or try and make you sit on their lap. No sireee, not at all. I told you about that too, you remember? Your solemn face, and your brothers’ too, as you listened, and did like wise. The good touch and the bad touch.

I told you how just believing in yourself, would get you the world, and its mother in law! I meant that, and I still do.

I watched, I listened, and worried. But you see, I did have faith in you. You could never go astray anywhere, with the values we built together, you and I and your brothers.

I insisted you play cricket with the boys. That you learn to play rough, just like them, while playing football. That you never sniffle and come with girlish whines. That you go out and be just like them. I knew I was doing right, I know I did right, for is not ours the best land in the world where you can be yourself? Not a boy, or a girl, but you!

But, that is why too, I insisted you learn self defence. For I know you, I have faith and trust in you, but I cannot say the same for a multitude of lecherous limbs out there in the big world.

And today, as you lie bruised and hurt, not just your body, but your spirit, what words can I say to console you? The lecherousness of the world took you by surprise, did it not? The passion of their misguided, misogynistic, moralistic, mad, mad, mad manic clammy notion fair took your breath away did it not?

I am sorry, my dearest. Not for them, but for this land, and her daughters who still have to face the demons we failed to vanquish with our Preamble. For this land, that spoke of Respect to Women, but listened to tenets to suppress them. For you, who had your illusions shattered when he pulled at your clothes and hit you on the head!

But I shall not let this be. And you shall join me. Today and tomorrow we shall go out again, and tell them, and the impotent public and the law of the land, that we matter. We will live, as equal citizens, as worthy women, with the core values of care, concern, respect and humanity. For is that not all we need? To be human? To serve that which is in all of us. The self same divinity, that you have, and he forgot he had, but borrowed an Uttama Purusha’s name to indulge in the lowest of crimes!

I shall not let it be. And you, being my daughter, will not either. I know you will pluck that courage again, from the ground where it lay briefly bleeding and battered, and we shall again, pit our might against a morality that is not one at all. Against injustice.

Come, my daughter, it is time. Let us pledge to bring back honour, and courage.

It is time. We must step out, and face the demons.

It has been done before, and it shall be, again. The Mahishasuras of Ignorance and Opression shall be overcome. Only this time we are Shakti. We.

Yours, always

Your Mother

26 January, 2009