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Golden Moments


തനി തങ്കം. Thani Thankam. No, no, this is not a piece on the Grand Shopping Festival of Kerala, and it’s myriad Jewellery Stores! It’s about two special people, and their special Golden Moment. This phrase in Malayalam best describes them. Pure as gold. The kind that is tested by the hottest fires, and still holds the golden sheen, soft and malleable. Daddy and Mummy. And this day, 7th December, they celebrate 50 years of togetherness. A golden moment, is it not?

Quite apart from the fact that they are MY parents ( 😀 ), what makes them special is that they have been just that, to ever so many others. Irrespective of age, sex, social status (and that is a big criteria, you can be sure, generally, in India, not to mention down under, here…!), or whatever…

But most of all, it is their togetherness that, I feel, they have been blessed with- right through their lives, that envelops them in that aura of a gentle mist of gold.  (I may be overusing that word today. Do excuse me. I cannot not 🙂 )

They came together fifty years ago, she, a shy diminutive, pretty, dark-eyed beauty, and he, a tall, dashing, dark and handsome Navy man. The early pictures of them have always charmed me. Mom’s kohl lined pretty eyes, the ever-smiling face (even now), the sporting gal (all the more now!), and by my word, I must confess she is perhaps the only one I know who grows younger, with age. Silvery haired, still diminutive, still beautiful woman. An awesome cook, an empathetic friend to everyone, especially in the neighbourhood…. ഷാരത്തെ അമ്മുമ്മ, “shaarathe ammumma” (ammumma means grandmother,  and shaarathe, for Pisharathe the house name) is what she is known as 🙂

And he? Well. 🙂 I loved the thick curly mane that rose from his high, broad, intelligent forehead, the quiet eyes, the hint of a smile hovering, but not quite showing itself, the reserve that used to be there (now in shambles, ever since the advent of the first grandchild 🙂 – happens to all the taciturn men, doesn’t it? And that is just such a joy to see too!) Over the years, the hair has thinned and quite disappeared, most of it… from the top of his head, but he’s still my dashing daddy, especially when he dresses up – impeccably as always- be it is mundu- veshti or his format attire. He’s always been a stickler for time, and perfect turnouts, and still is. Dapper, even now 🙂 He is (I ought to say was, for he no longer is 😀) the reserved one. A natural reserve that drew a natural respect from all who knew him. A most sincere and committed Professional, be it while he was in the Navy, the BEL, Tata Telecom or Tata Elixsi – he inspired and continues, even now, to inspire the young… At the young age of 70, he mastered the use of a computer, and is now quite internet savvy too, lately having joined facebook as well! Mom went for classes too, and got the hang of it, but felt that virtual world was not as warm as the real world :), though skype wowed her, and FB sometimes facinates her. She’d rather interact personally 🙂 Wise girl!

Together? Just as beautiful, even now, as they were then 🙂 They rock!  \m/  !!!

Growing up , as with other kids, there were some moments of reserve, with dad, of sheer and unadulterated fun with mom, and her large brood of siblings (dad was an only child!).

There are no words to describe our parents, are there? To each of us, they hold that special something, that no other parent in the world does; and you cannot really put it in so many words. It’s the lasting ideals in life, the enduring of their spirit, the knowing ( now, especially,  when one is a parent), that they did a darned fantastic job with their kids, kept them grounded (sometimes, for real too!!!), kept teaching, with their lives, even the next generation, in fact a whole generation of their children’s and grandkids’ friends too, that makes my parents a world apart.

I cannot ever say my children might someday say this of me, but this I know, my brothers and I, for sure, feel this.

Have you read Dr. Brian Weiss? His book “Many Lives, Many Masters” is a revelation – how the knowing of someone happens the instant you meet, or sometimes even before you do. I know that if my soul were to find a lifetime again, I would be part of dad’s and mom’s life too. I’d want to be. Even one of the pets they have. Yes, indeed. A pet it ought to be 🙂 🙂

No matter what  sourest of lemons life threw at them, they had the gumption to toast a tequila with it, bottoms up! They have endured, and in a way that is exemplary.

Today their quiet celebration is with Lord Krishna at Guruvayoor, and some close family members… partaking of the Lord’s simple meal, and spending time in harmony with their inner selves. Another golden moment in their lives glides by.

My simple wish is that they continue fill each other’s lives and ours too, with the wealth of their love, their affection and their blessing. For as long as they can, happily and in good health. For they deserve nothing less. First, they say, you have to deserve, then desire. I don’t think they would desire much more, than to see all of us happy, healthy and together… and I hope their desires, all thoroughly deserved will be theirs.

As we are too. Ever. Daddy, and Mummy, a wonderful and happy anniversary to both of you! May the Lord Bless us to have you with us, hale and hearty, for a long time!

(for the 7th of December, 2010)

5 December, 2010 (Scheduled post)

Pssst… there is another one for them on A Quest, my other blog called “Golden”, if you have the time, inclination and energy after reading till here!

Author: Usha Pisharody

A rambler, pretends to be a teacher, loves to dream, and go on Quixotic Quests in the Realm of Romance With Life...

30 thoughts on “Golden Moments

  1. Have a glorious 50th Anniversary! Have a good day and god bless 🙂


  2. lovely!!…i love reading ur blogs!!!…:)… A VERY VERY HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO CHERIAMMUMMA AND CHERIACHAN…:):):)…


  3. Beautiful tribute to them, Usha! All of us wish them a very very happy 50th Anniversary and many many more returns of the day!

    We have crossed 36th!


  4. You always have compiled essays nicely. That comes with your profession I guess, but this one is just as elaborative and touching as the best you have written in this segment.

    Loved reading this piece. Hopefully, with God’s grace, I will be able to write something like this for mine.

    They are great, together. Yours are too.

    God bless, all.


    • Soumya, LOL, at compiling essays… :D! More like, learnt it from my students! Thank you for your kind words, your heartwarming wishes too!

      I know for sure you WILL write one just like this. April isn’t it? And how many will it be next? 27? or 28? I remember the preparations for the Silver 🙂 Thanks again! God Bless!


  5. Touchwood. Golden anniversary wishes to this golden couple. It’s so beautiful.


    • Ushus, ഷാരത്തെ അമ്മുമ്മ, ‘shaarathe ammumma’ reminded me of sharatte ammini, the character from Neelatamara.

      Have you watched that one? I watched the recent one. Though I didn’t quite like the ending, it was a sweet film. I loved the character that played ammoomma. I think it was Monisha Unni’s mother.


    • Sols… 🙂 Thanks! Have passed the wishes on… and given Daddy a link to this post. Hope he will read it with mom, so that they can get all your wishes directly!

      Recently caught a part of Neelathamara on TV…. as you say the ending kind of spoiled it, but I rather enjoyed the film. Ah yes, I think that was Monisha’s mother. Thanks again for the lovely wishes!


  6. Fifty glorious years of living together
    helping each other, the challenges to weather.
    A relation that caresses like a feather.
    Golden wishes to your father and mother.


  7. “My simple wish is that they continue fill each other’s lives and ours too, with the wealth of their love, their affection and their blessing. ” Amen to that, Ushus! A beautiful post!

    Heartfelt anniversary wishes to this golden couple! God bless them 🙂


  8. awwwww pass my wishes to them 🙂 lovely post

    and u know 7th dec is my son’s bday too 😀


    • Monika, I had left a reply here, especially mentioning the coincidence of the dates! Looks like WP gobbled it down :)!

      Thanks so much for the wishes, and for the kind words for the blog post! Belated Birthday wishes to the son also. Ojas, isn’t it?


  9. itzzzz simply superb….convey our best wishes to them


  10. and ushachechi.. as always ..i logged in late..
    couldn’t resist expressing WOW!!!! …you should try something big… a novel …. a “booker” in the offing.. would await something soon…


    • Suresh, you do me great honour, and greater happiness, by visiting this post, and leaving your words 🙂 Thank you immensely! 😆 … a booker! Now I should be saying “Wow!” – open-mouthed and gaping! Thanks again!


  11. in short of words to say how well u pen down your feelings. a superb tribute to velliamma and velliachan.


  12. Hello Usha Ma’am 🙂 🙂

    Such a – should I say warm ? – piece of writing. It reminds me of my parents, of spring and rain, of winter chills and evening fires. I agree about the Brian Weiss part. Wonderful insight the book has… and I so remain a soulmate theory believer.

    Glad to have landed on this blog 🙂


    • Deboshree… 🙂 long time, isn’t it? Glad to have you here too! Your poems are still in my mind, the loveliness of them all!
      Thank you for being here and sharing in this write! God Bless!


      • Yes it’s been so long… those were such wonderful days. I too remember all your work and how they used to make me smile and your little green dew drops (display pic). Thanks a lot for your blessings as always 🙂


  13. Hi Usha!
    I came here first from IHM’s page…and now am a regular here and on your other page…
    Beautiful tribute and wish them many more years of Happiness and Togetherness…



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