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Random Rambles (so what is new, anyway?? :P) on Being a Mother…

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Finally. Lol.

I wonder though how many times I am going to be saying that over and over again. Running away, then returning. Highly irresponsible behaviour indeed, but then well, if you were to ask me, I should reply very honestly. Guilty as charged. There is also this sense of revelling in such behaviour of late. Perhaps I am now growing up 🙂 Whatever and however, I am back, most of me ie. With a lull in the work sphere, a breather is here, for a week or two, when I shall indulge in soaking in the blogosphere again. Thank you , dear friends for all your wishes, and for dropping in even when there was no new word here 🙂 So what now, I asked myself. And fell back on some homework given a long time ago, by IHM…who had  once upon a long time ago asked me to share my thoughts on being a mother.

So here goes:

Being a mother is discovering limitless patience, something you trashed, when you were a child.

Being a mother is being impatient with those who cannot smile, at a child.

Being amother is being happy and proud, sad and angry, all at once, when your little one comes home, having ridden his bicycle on his own, the first time, had a crash too, messed himself up, cut his brow, dripping blood, and hooting all the way to the clinic where they don’t let you hold his hand while they stitch him up, and he knowing that, ensures his six year self will not make a sound…

Being a mother is not sleeping for nights on end, being bleary eyed, red rimmed around the eyes,  and yet fresh as a daisy, energetic enough to stroll to the park when your offspring finally breaks his fever and wants “out”!

Being a mother is knowing you will worry, always; but will never share that worry, and keep it a guarded secret, which you later discover is quite an open secret. 😛

Being a mother is saying how much you love your kids by getting angry with them, and then, what the heck, telling them anyway! 😀

It is a proud moment being amother, theirs, when they take you around, young stripping lads, pillion riding on their new bikes, and better yet, proud sons, riding pillion behind their mother! Thank you guys, I know I’ll never live that one down! 🙂

Being amother, is something you will never grow out of, once you become one! No matter even if your kids are 40+… I know. Because of my mother !

Being amother, in the back of the beyond where convention and custom rule is rather fun, when one can shock a complacent and staid neighbourhood with one’s favourite attire of jeans… quite unthinkable for, well… A Mother! Lol!

But, sometimes, like IHM has shared, I don’t like being a mother…
…When I realize the world is so full of perverts and paedophiles…

…When I know the mother is worshipped ostentatiously , trampled under insidiously, and shoved into that pigeon hole she must never grow out of…

…When people assume that as a mother one must conform and then be idolized- and rarely, if ever, inspire…

Being a mother is even greater fun, when one can preen at astonished remarks-Oh? That is your mother? Rather than feeling weird, I revel in that!

Being amother – you can do anything! That is the faith your children repose in you- and that is what endlessly provokes and inspires. And even when they know otherwise, they would rather believe – moms can make it better!

I love being a mother, more so, today, when I had this conversation with my little one- the gangly six foot soon to be engineer :D!
He is the President of his Civil Engg Branch Association at college (ahem! Ahem! That is a darned proud mom sharing a tidbit, quite deliberately, one might add 😀 quite unnecessarily too :P!) He had streaked his hair (red), inspired others to follow suit, and took his best friend this evening  to get his done, blonde… Brought him home, soliticiously  offered him a cap (black) to escape detection at home (seeing as his mom might not be as accommodating), with a warning, that they could both return home sooner than I expected. Of course, being a mom I know, and they do too… but warnings must not be ignored either!
When he returned, alone, I remarked that he certainly was lucky to have me as his mother. He was not amused, but regarded me quizzically. I knew the look, and knew something was cooking. I continued to write, and ramble, this very piece, I must add 😀

“Amma, you know, my friends say that I’d look great with my ears pierced. Ear. Only one.”

(I knew he had already bought a pair of earrings, and mulled over ways to get it done :P)

“Sure” I replied, not even batting an eyelid, and continued writing.

Silence. I looked up. He looked exasperated.

“Amma, why can’t you say NO?”

“NO, if you want me to… “ grinning broadly now. Me, that is.

He joins. “Can’t you really refuse? It’s no fun doing it when you don’t oppose”

Rofl.

Talk of contradictions.

And then I remind him of a mutually favourite Calvin and Hobbes comic strip (we both discovered them this vacation, and are absolute fans :P) when Calvin’s mom allows him to smoke, which he does, finds out the real way whether to go on or not, and comes out with the Classic Note on parenting : (Scroll down and read it…:D!) Iloved it! And yes, I love being a mom. Just thought I’d clarify anyway.

calvin and hobbes

Need I add more? I think not. I do not want to give Indygurl a run for her money 🙂 And yes…. Happy Birthday Indygurl… and Happy Friendship Day too… 🙂 Solilo beat me to it, but what the heck… I shall just add one more wish and blessing to her lot 🙂

1 August, 2009

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Author: Usha Pisharody

A rambler, pretends to be a teacher, loves to dream, and go on Quixotic Quests in the Realm of Romance With Life...

14 thoughts on “Random Rambles (so what is new, anyway?? :P) on Being a Mother…

  1. Calvin and Hobbs rule!

    I think most kids do things to annoy their parents – I too won’t say no to my daughter…Being a mom is the best thing that has happened to me although my patience level has not increased 😦

    Right you are Saraboneyghose… C & H rule!

    🙂 Thank you for the resonance. There have been times when I did sorely want to say NO, and had done so, but fortunately, for the times I did not, I guess these were accepted in good grace :D!

    Glad to have your views here!

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  2. Awww this was such a pleasure to read and I am so glad you will be around even if just for a little bit!! You are a Leo too, so I must wish you a very happy birthday too… it’s thirteenth isn’t it? Let em confirm!!

    I agree!! Calvin and Hobbes rule!!

    I was giggling delightedly at these two….

    “Being a mother is even greater fun, when one can preen at astonished remarks-Oh? That is your mother? Rather than feeling weird, I revel in that!”

    &

    “and better yet, proud sons, riding pillion behind their mother! Thank you guys, I know I’ll never live that one down!”

    … and I laughed aloud at this one!! 😆

    “Being amother, in the back of the beyond where convention and custom rule is rather fun, when one can shock a complacent and staid neighbourhood with one’s favourite attire of jeans… quite unthinkable for, well… A Mother! Lol!’

    You are one fun mother Usha!!! I am not surprised your boys are so proud of you!!!

    Lol, IHM, that is another note to cherish and treasure 🙂 Thank you so much!

    And yes, a Leo, and the date? Well… let ’em confirm :P! Thanks for the wishes too! Though there have been times, as Saraboney says, when patience has worn thin, I have entirely enjoyed, and loved being a mother, as you have too, I know, having read your wonder of a post as well!
    Terrific to be here, again, and to have you here also! 🙂
    The second born tag is also due to release in a while.. will let you know:)

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  3. Welcome back Usha 🙂

    great to have you back and this is really a touching post… 😀

    /*“Can’t you really refuse? It’s no fun doing it when you don’t oppose”*/

    LOL 😆 he misses the fun 😀

    Thank you Kanagu 🙂 I am sure you know how much he probably missed the fun of going against a parental dictate there 🙂 You smiley says it all! Thank you also for the welcome back. I am indeed more relieved than ever that I could make it back, and rather sooner than I thought I would too 🙂 🙂

    /*Being amother is being happy and proud, sad and angry, all at once, when your little one comes home, having ridden his bicycle on his own, the first time, had a crash too, messed himself up, cut his brow, dripping blood, and hooting all the way to the clinic where they don’t let you hold his hand while they stitch him up, and he knowing that, ensures his six year self will not make a sound…*/

    😀 😀 😀
    Well, that was MOMENT I can tell you :D!

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  4. Welcome back! You have very nicely listed out what motherhood means to you. Nice to see you religiously doing your “homework” and setting an example for your students(?, perhaps). Happy Friendship day!

    Lol, Mr Gopinath, perhaps that is least I could do, the homework that is, after the prolonged absence. Could not even excuse myself for not having been given the assignment. And no, not setting an example, rather finding out how difficult it is to be dilligent in doing it 😀

    Thank you for the kind note, and the warm wishes. Happy Friendship Day to you too!

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  5. Beautiful…Usha…missed u so much in this space…and the Calvin and Hobbes lightened the moment considerably…
    Your boys are blessed, indeed!

    And I am blessed too, Sindhu to have them 🙂 Thanks so much for the lovely words!

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  6. Happy friendship day… and welcome back !!!!!!

    i havent read it…

    but just glad to see you post !!!!!!!!!!!

    stay here… i ll be back in a few days !!!!!!!!!!!

    Dhirubhai, I know you are on vacation now 🙂 Don’t worry I shall be around a few days more 🙂 And take your time! Happy friendship day to you too!

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  7. ” “Can’t you really refuse? It’s no fun doing it when you don’t oppose”

    You are a smart mom. 😆

    Being pregnant and becoming a mom is something. I mean I don’t know about others but I think it is one of the best things that has happened to me….being a mother. Now I am learning to keep my cool. It is not easy. Ha..ha..h..

    The 5 year old chatterbox annoys me sometimes. 😆 But then after couple of mins. the same thing sounds cute.

    C & H rocks. I am sure my daughter will agree when she grows up. Did you read the bad parenting post on mine?

    Yes, I did, Solilo… 🙂 And it was a treat 🙂 But then you know it so well too 🙂
    Thanks as always, for the push, and the encouragement to keep at it here 🙂 🙂

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  8. Firstly, welcome back to blog world – nice to have you back. A nice post on motherhood.

    Being a man, I cannot feel what mother’s feel but last few weeks, I witnessed my daughter as a mother and I was wondering what has happened; what changed – I suppose motherhood IS SPECIAL. Her throat seems to transform when she is addressing our grand daughter – love seems to be oozing out every time she speaks with her.

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  9. (((hugs))) Ushus..you are an awesome mom:)
    Being a mother is being impatient with those who cannot smile, at a child

    You know what? I will be like this too 🙂 I just know:)
    those who cant smile at a child perhaps dont know how to smile at all..

    Being amother is being happy and proud, sad and angry, all at once, when your little one comes home, having ridden his bicycle on his own, the first time, had a crash too, messed himself up, cut his brow, dripping blood, and hooting all the way to the clinic where they don’t let you hold his hand while they stitch him up, and he knowing that, ensures his six year self will not make a sound…
    what an absolutely darling kid Ushus!

    It is a proud moment being amother, theirs, when they take you around, young stripping lads, pillion riding on their new bikes, and better yet, proud sons, riding pillion behind their mother! Thank you guys, I know I’ll never live that one down!
    ah! now this I knew 😀
    Sol’s gift on the right sidebar told me all I needed to know long back 😀 that you ROCK! 😀

    When I know the mother is worshipped ostentatiously , trampled under insidiously, and shoved into that pigeon hole she must never grow out of…

    …When people assume that as a mother one must conform and then be idolized- and rarely, if ever, inspire…
    ah yes! Ushus..this baffles me too..why do we as a society put mothers on these pedestals? where they have to be stuck forever? and god forbid if they break a few notions!
    gasp! blasphemy!
    ughh !!makes me mad!
    and it is those women who refuse to conform who are the very best! 🙂

    He is the President of his Civil Engg Branch Association at college (ahem! Ahem! That is a darned proud mom sharing a tidbit, quite deliberately, one might add quite unnecessarily too

    the ‘being proud’ is totally, totally justified 😀

    “Amma, you know, my friends say that I’d look great with my ears pierced. Ear. Only one.”

    (I knew he had already bought a pair of earrings, and mulled over ways to get it done )

    “Sure” I replied, not even batting an eyelid, and continued writing.

    Silence. I looked up. He looked exasperated.

    “Amma, why can’t you say NO?”

    “NO, if you want me to… “ grinning broadly now. Me, that is.

    He joins. “Can’t you really refuse? It’s no fun doing it when you don’t oppose”

    Rofl.

    Let me ROFL too !! 😆
    what an absolutely cool mom to have ! 😀 no let me make that ” what an absolutely cool mom you are!”
    and yet I can understand his exasperation too 😀
    ah! to never know the joy of rebellion…no cause to take up? 😉
    all the angst wasted?
    😀
    all because one’s mom is just too cool for words 😀

    Ushus you rock! and I will say this again till you get tired of hearing it ! 😀 you absolutely and truly ROCK!! 😀

    C&H is awesome as usual:) and yes a lesson learnt there I can see 😀

    ((hugs))) *touchwood*

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    • Thank you for the wishes Darling Ushus..:) you see I am still trying to find words for that beautiful gift you have given on your other space 🙂

      (((hugs)))))

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  10. Great tips and examples from you 🙂 Yes, saying a yes sometimes helps!!

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  12. And I will say it again. You ROCK! 😀

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