And… When there is a spate of confessions that our High Priestess on SAGS, IHM is egging on Wordfully and Wordlessly; and multitudes simply revel in sins they have gleefully and willfully committed; I am now giving in to temptation.How could I not! I have EVE to thank, don’t I? For me she is the Awesome SAGS (no blasphemy here, honest!!) Well, she was told not to eat the fruit, and being a typical SAGS, very unlike a Gender Stereotype, she had to go and eat it. Adam, well, he was a good boy; and faithfully followed her out! I like to think of that as being the first time, perhaps, Stereotyping, if at all intended with the package, got thrown a brick at!!!
I guess I do not need to go into the details of the tag, but since I have tagged others, I feel it is my duty to do so
Please list at least ten things you have ever wanted or done which your gender is not supposed to. The tag is called ‘My Sins against Gender-Stereotypes’. And you must tag twelve blogging friends or else you will be cursed to wear blue clothes pants if you are a woman and pink shirts if you are a man – for next twelve years
Bless me, O Others, for I have sinned…
- I am (not was, please note ) a tomboy. I sometimes do not understand why they have to say “Tom”"Boy”. Lol! Double underscore a variant in the gene? I grew up with boisterous brothers, and their gang. I played gilli danda, lagori, Cricket (Darned good at pace, I was!), Hockey, Basketball, Throwball (Now that is more girly, but I loved that too ) I still join in the Sports day stuff at school, cheer wildly and jump about, and egg the girls, especially, to go on and out and run and play and all… And watch sports channels. And discuss the latest on the EPL, Champions League, or even the WC, with the class You need nothing more to bring zip into the grammar classes
- Our neighbours would constantly tell my mother to get me out of shorts, during my school days. In Bangalore, way back then, we used to have rather conservative Mallu and Kannadiga neighbours. To give her her due, she did try. I didn’t listen! ! Even now, at almost 50, in the back of the beyond of the backwaters land, in the small suburb of a semi rural city I live in, my favourite clothes, jeans, is what I wear most often. Not to school though. Dress code, you see. So I can’t You can, without any further help, imagine the the expressions I am met with. For a long while, I did not wear trousers; but, the past couple of years have released inhibition, and I am glad I sin !
- I drive. And well. And I am darned proud of it ! It’s been, what almost 30 years on, and I still love driving. That’s the car.
- I cycle. I have gone a bit further. It was a Luna, in college. A Kinetic Honda later. Then a Honda Activa. Then a few of my discs kinda prolapsed and extruded. Got grounded. Then, the resurrection ! First Born allowed me to ride his Thunderbird. And that, let me tell you, folks, was the bestestestest!! The Nirvana of an auto aficionado! Can’t wait for Second Born to give me real time lessons, on it. A moped? Ha!!! I do BIKES!!!!
- I know where I am going, and what I am doing, especially on drives! Can navigate and lead, and find routes better than locals. I discovered that, here in my hometown. I have been, since, giving tips to localites on how to get to places easier and quicker And I’m actually a transplant
- Need to have a curtain rod fixed? Or perhaps your plug is broken? No, don’t call me … .. but these are things I have found to be very interesting, and so got dad to teach me, a long time ago. What he did not, I figured out for myself soon enough! Most of this kind of work at home I do myself.
- I stand with and supervise workers, especially those who come to do electrical or painting or construction work, and constantly give them suggestions ! And men here, as Shail has said in her fantastic piece on SAGS, are rather dumbstruck by it. They always ask for SAAR. I tell them I’m the SAAR!! I even do a bit of painting, window grills, frames, and patches, after they have left so that they dont waste time the next day ! Am planning to paint the upstairs of my house, the interior, myself. Long term plan for the vacation!
- I read. And read. And read. Is that supposed to be something women don’t do, or like or have the time for, perhaps? I do!
- I don’t like to cook much. When I feel like it, I do cook up a storm, but usually, am not a kitchen person ! There’s food, and there’s FOOD. Not the be all and end all of life, for me!
- I am net savvy.Something very very very few women around here are anyway. And it confounds the service persons who come home, when they have to deal with me, and not anyone else. I tell them about the problem, what I think has gone kaput, and what can be done. On occasion I open up the CPU, pull out the RAM, clean it and put it back, when I hear the long piiiiinnnnnnnnnngggg noise, and the monitor does not switch itself on
Is that a ten? *Hi5* to all the other sinners. Actually, it’s not the non conformist in me that I am proud of. In fact it is not about not conforming. It is more about being who you are, man or woman, doing what you like, you love, really, and not thinking about, Oh! Should I?
There was a time, when I did, and conformed to the “T”… but I am glad I found my old self again, and now more than ever for I have found company of so many and that is such a comfort. Contrarily, even if there weren’t, I’d still be comfortable, because I am me, finally
And with all this; I still love wearing sarees; mundu vesthi (that is set mundu)- (no, that is not me in the picture, just one I googled )a very very traditional Keralite two piece mundu, worn like a sort of half saree ; I love embroidery and mirror work; I do mehendi designs on hands and feet for those who like to wear it I love to pamper myself at the beauty salon… I love the feminine, coochy coo me too I’m a die hard Romantic, who weeps when she sees romantic comedies even !
I have sinned. And all the better for it Now can I place this on my mantlepiece?
Oh, I need to tag others! Almost everyone I know here has, with great enthusiasm and obvious pleasure done it! So I am doomed to wear blue pants! (I love the idea though!!!)
Still, let me see….
7 July, 2010